Let’s get naked: Sheila Kelley at TEDxAmericanRiviera

Let’s get naked: Sheila Kelley at TEDxAmericanRiviera


Translator: Roberta Battaglia
Reviewer: Capa Girl (Music) (Applause) Thank you. Wow, that was fun. Ok, let’s get naked!
(Laughter) Ready, set, strip! No, teasing, I’m joking! The kind of naked that I’m referring to is the naked that makes you
squirm on the inside. It’s naked of the heart. Naked to the soul.
Naked to the truth, which is what I want to share
with you today as the truth about men, women
and the Erotic Creature. But it’s going to require some stripping
on both of our parts. I need you to strip away
all those false pretenses as ideas you have about the female body and I need you to strip your minds wide open. So this is my laboratory where I’ve spent the last 12 years
guiding women toward awakening their
feminine body movement which awakens their feminine nature which awakens what I call
their Erotic Creature. Every woman on the planet
has an Erotic Creature. She’s the primal feminine body. She’s the wild, untamed,
sexual alter ego that lives deep within. Very often she’s buried
under furrowed brows, tensed frozen bodies,
judgmental thoughts and fear, but she is there. And when you awaken her and you integrate her into your being, it sends you into a place of wholeness and this wholeness
of the feminine is capable of elevating every living creature
within its reach. Let’s talk for one second
about — oh, there it is, the Erotic Creature —
the Unthinkable. What if I tell you that the pole
that I was just dancing on is a symbol for the next and fourth wave of the feminist movement? I know, right!? The personal reclamation of the female body
and the sexuality within. It’s crazy, right? A stripper pole representing
the feminist movement — there’s got to be some people
rolling over in their graves! Heros of mine! But I’m going to tell you
about this wild journey I took over the last 23 years
that brought me to this place of clarity and conviction. I’ll set the scene for you. 1989, La Cienega Boulevard
Star Strip Gentleman’s Club. The first time I went into a strip club I was a young actress,
I was helping a friend with a writing project and I was very unhappy
that I had to go on to this place that I felt subjugated and objectified women. But once inside I fell in love with the movement of some of the dancers, Their bodies undulated and they teased and they were provocative and sexual,
and so feminine. And I was desperate to learn how to do it. But I didn’t want to be
a professional stripper. Not that there’s anything wrong with that! What I did is I wrote-produced a film where I actually got to play a stripper. And in the movie I needed to create a character who lived and moved through her sexuality. And I thought this is going to be fun. So I, first day of rehearsal, put on this outfit that I thought would communicate my sexy stripper-self into the world, please don’t laugh or you can laugh!
(Laughter) So I got on stage in this outfit and the music comes on
and my body just goes: uh-uh — uh-uh — Ain’t moving!
And she froze! Now I was a dance major,
New York University, I’m a professionally trained ballerina, I should know how to do this. But my body was like,
“I am not having anything of it!” And I started to force her to kind of — bop from side to side, trying to be really sexy,
it was so pathetic, it was totally not sexy! And what I was realizing is that nowhere in my being did I know how to embody my sexuality
in my everyday life. It wasn’t that I didn’t have sexuality.
I for myself though it was fine. It was bringing my sexuality
into my everyday life. I was faltering at being overtly feminine,
like — wow, the body, which is a brilliantly
intuitive creature, speaks. And what my body was saying is: “You can clearly see,
is you have no idea who I am.” And she was completely right. So I knew something was missing
inside of me. I spent the next 4 months,
as we developed the film, hunting for who I was
as a sexually embodied creature. I went to the strip clubs,
I met dancers, I dissected the movement
and I learned it, and what I found inside of myself
I did not expect. I found its dark, soulful,
emotional sexuality that gave me a confidence
in my body and my femininity that I’d never had before. What awoke in me
was my Erotic Creature. All this is amazing,
but it gets so much better, because not only did I awaken
that side of myself but this side of myself
started changing everything on the home front. My marriage went from
“Eh” to “Oh my God!” It’s stayed there for 23 years. I became a happier mother to my children, I became a more complete woman
on to myself. And I had to share this with other women. I was like, ‘You’ve got — this is it, this is the Holy Grail of empowerment!’ and they’re like, ‘Ok.’ I developed this movement called ‘S Factor,’ and I started teaching it to fellow pre-school moms
and women in the neighbourhood and they too started releasing their sexuality into their everyday lives
and into their bodies and — the same changes that I’d had in my life they were having in theirs. Happier relationships,
happier children, happier women,
it caught on like wild fire. The next thing I know I am on Oprah’s. We become —
our effort becomes international news. I’m inundated with e-mails
from all over the globe. Apparently, the desire to be whole — it crosses not only geographic boundaries but political and cultural boundaries as well. I had tapped in a world-wide artery of women all missing
the same something I had been missing. The Erotic creature was asleep globally.
But how was that possible? I couldn’t understand
how could the woman from Saudi Arabia, the woman from Beijing, the woman
from Buenos Aires and me in Los Angeles, how could we all be missing the same thing?
I needed to understand this. And I call it the ‘Yin effect.’ Think of each person, male or female,
having within the potential of Yin-feminine and Yang-masculine energy, we live in a world that cuts out
a piece of Yin in all of us. And if you jump into that Yin,
you’ll see that it’s the physicality and sexuality
of the feminine body that’s shut down. And the more women I talked to,
the more I learned. And what I learned is that
the shutting down of the Yin starts with the first offense. The first offense is
the first time anyone or anything brings negative attention,
judgment or shame to your body. So my first offense happened
when I was 7 and this is the picture of what
a 7-year-old little girl’s body looks like just for you to refer to throughout the story —
this is my daughter. I was hanging out with my best friends,
Brian and Donald Doyle, they were 7 and 8 respectively,
we were hanging out in the backyard, it was summer,
it was really hot, we were playing,
we decided to take a break and we went to cool down,
so we all took our tops off and we laid back in the grass, arms over the head,
it was an awesome day, the air was cooling my chest, it was a beautiful, innocent day. And all of a sudden the upstairs window
of their house was flying open and Mrs Doyle stuck her head out and she screamed
in the most piercing voice, ‘Sheila Kelley! You naughty little girl! You put your top on immediately, you ought
to be ashamed of yourself and go home.’ My shoulders started
to pinch up towards my ears, my chest caved-in
with this new-found emotion of shame, I couldn’t breathe,
it was the moment I began to separate from my female body. Mrs hadn’t yelled at her boys
but she yelled at me but we did the same thing. What I learned that day is
it’s safe and good to be in a male body,
and it’s not safe, it’s dangerous
to be in a female body. Mrs Doyle didn’t hate me, she was trying to curb
a sexuality that scared her, that didn’t even exist yet. She thought she had
the right to tell me what I could and couldn’t do with my body. These kind of stories play out
every single day all over the globe. We are stealing the light and the life from these creatures,
these beautiful feminine creatures. Every single woman you know has had a first offense,
whether she’s aware of it or not. And she’s had subsequent offenses
every day of her life, offenses like ‘keep your knees together’,
‘don’t move like that’, ‘she’s a slut’,
‘you look like a whore’. These offenses eat away
at the emotional boundary and the ego of the body
until you do not know where your body begins
and where your body ends. You think anyone, anytime,
anywhere can tell you what you can
and cannot do in your body and the only choice you have
is to shut it down. So let’s understand these offenses
a little better ’cause they’re tricky
and you can’t always tell they’re offenses. And there’s a spectrum of them
and they’re global and they range in noticeability. If some of these pictures are difficult —
please avert your eyes. They range from barbaric,
such as the stoning to death of a woman who expresses her sexuality. Or brutal, the creating
of a human chastity belt made of flash. Or overt, the mandatory veiling
of the female body. To subtle controls,
things like offensive advertising that eats away
your integrity of your body. To subliminal controls,
the infantile global uproar over a pair of royal nipples. Now really, honestly, I just don’t know
which pair of nipples were so offensive! But that’s another talk! So I wanna switch
the table on you for a second. Do you know
who I find incredibly attractive and I think if I saw his bare nipples I would be so sexually aroused
that I couldn’t control myself? Daniel Craig.
I don’t even look over there because — I kind of think Daniel Craig
should cover his nipples, too! (Laughter) (Applause) I know, I know,
it’s absurd, but is it? We are laughing at this
but we are doing this to the female body. Globally. What each and every one of these
offenses have in common is the desire — their end-goal is to control and limit the female body and sexuality, to control the clitoris,
to control the vagina, to control the uterus,
to control all of it. We don’t want to think
that atrocities like acid-burnings for turning down a marriage proposal are related to atrocities like domestic abuse for turning down
a marriage proposal. But as you can see
they’re the exact same thing they’re just using different tactics of control in different degrees. And when you hear repeatedly that your body is obscene or indecent you begin to internalize it,
and you start to self-control and you start to try and hide your body, you try and hide your sexuality
in unhealthy eating habits, or you hide in skin and bones, you’ll do anything you can to hide. Or you start to cut. Or you try to become
somebody else’s ideal of perfection. Or you’ll mini-man yourself up
so that you can be taken more seriously in a world that values
all that is masculine. Or you just live where 80% of the women
in America live which is where something is missing and you have no idea what it is. What we have done to the ego
of the female body is — it’s horrific. We have squandered and abused one of the sweetest, most vulnerable, most adorable creatures on the planet, and we — all of us —
we are all paying the price, because if you think
women are the only one scarred in the relationship to their body, think about this:
what the Doyle boys learned on the day of my first offense was exactly what I learned. They learned that their body
was more valuable than my body. They learned that if their mother
could tell me what I could and couldn’t do in my body then maybe someday they could, too. Men too are scarred in relationship
to the feminine body through these offenses. In a UCLA study of normal college students over 50% of the young men said
they would rape a woman if they knew there was no punishment. For the majority of men
the most arousing fantasy was the rape of a young woman where she experienced
both orgasm and pain. Right? Kind of sobering. There was a time
when the female body was worshiped, not just for her life-giving ability, but for her heightened senses,
her emotional acuity, her brilliant intuition
and her dance of the fertility. And this dance took place
at night when the women — and only the women —
would gather over the fields and they would do —
they would undulate their pelvises over the crops to fertilize the soil,
to feed the village. That’s the true origin
of what we know as ‘fertility dance’,
which became erotic dance, which became what we know today
as strip-tease and pole-dancing. It was a celebration
of the feminine body. It began as a dance of life.
The great mythologist and philosopher
Joseph Campbell wrote, ‘Woman is life and Man is the protector of life. The male’s job is to protect the women.’ Somehow we have — the way we’ve learned
how to protect has become perverted. We are protecting
by dousing the flame of the feminine. We are serving by controlling
the body of the feminine instead of doing what we have to do
and that is to turn our masculine energy out and face any on-coming threat
so that the feminine can blossom and grow
and radiate and be life. The next wave
of the feminist movement is actually — it’s a human movement
and it includes all of us and it is the reclamation of the beauty and the genius of both
the masculine and the feminine. And it all begins with the awakening
of the Erotic Creature in every woman because when a woman steps into
her power in her body she calls every single masculine
into his greatest power. When she gets stronger
he gets stronger. When we as a culture diminish her we are diminishing our culture. The female-male complement can exist and only when we cultivate it are we really going to live up
to the potential — the true potential of ourselves
individually and collectively. This is my guy.
We cultivate every single day, it’s not perfect,
there are ups and downs, but we dance the dance
of empowering one another. Now here I am totally naked. If we all strip bare every day and expose our deepest truth, we can live naked in our passion, naked in our power,
naked in ourselves, naked in the moment. I reclaimed my body after a lifetime of self-criticism brought on
by a society that curbed her enthusiasm for life,
and in doing so I have become, as Charles Dickens
so beautifully wrote, ‘the hero of my own life’.
So the choice is yours. Do you dare to become
the heroes of your lives and reclaim your essence? Do you dare to live naked? So when you walk out of this talk, when you leave this talk, women, step into the grandeur,
the beauty, the gorgeousness the sway, the curve,
the power, the fire of your body, of your spirit, of your emotions. I want you to undulate your spine and just rock your body, sway it, move it, stretch it, reach your arms up, you can do it right now if you want to. I want you to go out and throw a hip-circle
in the middle of the grocery store! Just for the fun of it! I want you to spread
your radiance with a smile like right into the eyes of a stranger. And I’m going to feed you
and you’re going to feed me. And men, step into the magnificence
of the masculine creature that you are. Create a space of safety
for the feminine to thrive. Serve her, protect her, face out and hold her in your gaze and elevate her. Because when you elevate her you will behold in front of you the eternal and the sacred feminine. She’s here right this minute, she is in front of you,
she’s next to you, she’s behind you,
she is every woman, she is the swoop of the neck, and the turn of an ankle,
and the curve up the lower back, and she’s the deep emotional heart, she is the wise intuitive soul, and when you see her,
when you awaken her when you behold her
— oh my God — whether you are a man,
a woman or a child, you will be filled up,
split open into your bliss because that is the power
of the feminine. And one more thing. Women — when you walk into a room, remember your breasts
should enter 5 minutes before you and your glories ass should leave
5 minutes after you’re gone! Thank you very much! (Applause and cheers) Thank you.
(Applause)

100 thoughts on “Let’s get naked: Sheila Kelley at TEDxAmericanRiviera

  1. Isn't this just the hippy movement all over again? I love and hate it at the same time, seems that is what Sheila doesn't get.

  2. Female speakers miss the entire point. Men have to earn the right to have sex, women don't. They just have to be however they are. This is truly a disadvantage to men all over the world. The day when women pay for dates and buy equally expensive wedding rings will be the day that women have equal rights sexually. Men don't want to marry anymore because women shame men all the time, the institution of marriage is to emasculate and castrate men both physically (no sex) and emotionally (ruining finances). Wake up men, there must be a movement to destroy modern day feminism once and for all. Men don't want sexual creatures who are always looking for the next fling. This is trained into the mind of sexually promiscuous female, when married they often cheat in order to feel the novelty that they feel is missing in a monogamous relationship. Sexuality of the female mind has ruined it for us all.

  3. she talks about feminism but then tells men to serve and protect women am I the only one seeing a contradiction there

  4. beautiful thank you. I see men and women with their panties in a bunch from this talk. Those who complain just don't get it cause they aint doin it right.

  5. The difference is in humanity our sexual organs are considered private. It what emits waste and absorbs sex. Men don't wave their penises around. Boobs are considered a sexual area because its involved in pregneancy and breastfeeding and should only be revealed for sex and feeding babies. Why is this for women only? Why can't we wave our dicks around?

  6. People, Men, Women.
    Relax and undetstand. Be a Man. Hold our Women in high regaurd. These are our Mothers, Wives, and Daughters. They are Beautiful and they are life. Protect and love them.
    Make them feel Beautiful on the inside and the outside and they will give back 10 fold.

  7. just my opinion, but sex is nice and good, if both parts want it. she is right about the Thing with the Girls, that they tell you what you can and cant do. If you go out with short skirts, your endangered to get raped. Is a guy in danger if he wears Shorts? So, i dont go like that and glare pissed at guys. If i were on an Island all alone i go naked. Some men call woman like her a feminazi, but shes right. And it is nice to hear so positive Things about being a woman! because most of the time we only hear shit. Like we smell, are too fat or not pretty as we are. But there is hope, i work in a kitchen. and many men realised that it is more fun with woman there. And they dont make sexismjokes anymore.

  8. Just about every woman I dated that I thought was beautiful, she thought she was ugly. I was never able to convince any of them that they were beautiful… even to me.

  9. Oh, like wow. Maybe you SHOULD become a professional stripper; then perhaps someone, somewhere would briefly give a shit about your superficial, little mindless SELF,   Feh.

  10. True origin is too that women tortured and murdered men in those times when they were worshipped. Men didnt have power against them.

  11. Hmmm. This is dangerous. The male equivalent could be: Every male is a wild feral creature who wants nothing but to inseminate every female he encounters….

  12. women almost stand no chance to go against social pressures. men at least dare, some even succeed. more women need to stand on their own. everyone can respect such a person more

  13. The dance at the beginning is so beautiful, intoxicating, and vulnerable, but I feel almost every women has a small portion of her that craves that complete abandonment that surrender to throwing her whole body mind and soul into and dance like this…I crave dancing in this state..(Get over the pole)…its the sense of abandonment. and revel, that is intoxicating. Love it so much almost made me cry..the song is perfect…"Don't harm me"! I think a women in this state inspires every fiber of a (good) true man to want to rise up, Protect, Love and nurture a women like this..It is built into their DNA….And I have to constantly remind myself of this when making the choice to be feminine and even vulnerable…that those I love don't want to harm me. They want to love and protect me, and only in this state of mind can a women relax and feel cherished and sexy. Fantastic stuff lady!! Bravo!!!!

  14. > I can dance on a STRIPPER POLE and take my clothes off to express my SEXUALITY!
    > … men look at me and objectify me! Why are they doing this to the female body!
    ^ This is why no one takes feminism seriously anymore.

  15. 14:30 here's a different perspective. We protect and cover that we value i.e for some people jewellery, possessions etc. For the same reasons you protect the material you value is the same reason I would protect (cover) what I value, the women in my life and women in general.

  16. Very well explained , but we brought it all on ourselves , the church , media , society , wars , greed , We so clever we have destroyed ourselves and robbed our self from the real deal , we f up the planet , for what???? money , power ,haha . God must be sad He created everything, put us in control off it and what do we do with it . Every body know now its us and now we do the most silly thing by denying God the greater's excistance . We funny sad people . Keep up your good work you do make a difference , porn can hold a candle to a Erotic woman , you cannot fake the real deal , maybe you should start teaching men how to handle an erotic woman , i don't think we know how , lost the skill or are to scared to try,

  17. More power to you! I wish every woman could hear this talk. I mean really, hear this talk. I wish there was more for men to listen to, as well. We've lost an appreciation for the purely masculine, in our culture, as well….and not just the brutal, offensive acts of shallow men.
    I search among my memories, like a child along a beach, a zillion beautiful seashells, within them, no meat. Got this stupid plastic shovel and a bucket for shells ''to keep'', but where are the pearls of the ocean, what taste is the juice of the deep.

  18. Man bad women good………..My dog is female…ummm good. Let's see,….. what else is female and therefore, by extension, has got to be good?? These self serving, male bashing flock of clucking hens are all good of course. Because they are women. No other criteria need be considered…….. Wow. I've never seen such a collection of idiotic people in my life.

  19. wow finally someone whos in tune with her body. .mentally and physically . i am a man that has a lot exp experience in this area forgive forgive us men for we know not what we have done or what we do two women. we can all sit here Tit for Tat but like she said it started at that seven year old age when that lady was in the window. it's the same for men you know they say they don't give you the instructions about a woman and it's a go and multiply. gentlemen and women especially the ones that think you know there's a lot more to what she saying. no matter how hard a woman thinks she is One Thing Remains she is an emotional creature we have to understand that women are very delicate despite what they might say I could say so much to this video before you try to bash her do your research or listen to what she saying is Kelly I sure understand if you women and men would take the time out to do your research before you bash each other cheese actually educating you she's talking about those things that everybody wants to sweep under the rug or play hush hush a we don't talk about that around here grown folks has a lot to learn about this video don't hate on her dig deeper and to what she saying

  20. i was searching for standup comedy on youtube, but …………
    what to say ……ahmmm…. you make me to think in a new way about women. i ve always respected women but never thought they can be worshiped. thank you kelley

  21. can i publish this as an article on my linkedin, facebook and other social media along with a link to this video?

  22. THIS WOMAN IS A SEXIST, HATEFUL LIAR. EVERYTHING SHE SAID ABOUT MEN IS A COMPLETE LIE. THE EXTREME MAJORITY OF MEN ARE NOT AROUSED AT ALL BY RAPE OR RAPE FANATSIES. MOST MEN ARE ACTUALLY TURNED OFF BY ANYTHING TO DO WITH RAPE. AS FOR THE UCLA STUDY THAT IS A CROCL OF BULLSHIT. I CAN'T BELEIVE SHE HAS THAT MUCH HATRED TOWARD MEN TO LIE SAYING SOME BULLSHIT STUDY SAYS 50% OF MEN WOULD RAPE IF THERE WERE NO CONSEQUENCES. HOW DARE SHE. MEN ARE NOT RAPISTS. RAPISTS ARE RAPISTS. MAY SHE BURN IN HELL FOR YELLING SUCH HATEFUL LIES THAT ONLY DIVIDE MEN AND WOMAN.

  23. I'm pissed i kept waiting for shelia to get naked and get on a stripper pole. Keep her heels on of course

  24. This is SO important. Not just for femininism but i truley believe EXACTLY what you are saying is the key to a more peacful and (some would say ironically), loving, safe and passionate, decent world. Honestly this video gave me shivers it is so vital!!!

  25. Sorry but I'm lovesick at the moment, and that dance and the first couple of words about naked hearts is killing me right now 🙁

  26. I thought i was watching Ted talks, then bam! pole dancing is what I got and the grandparents walked in, it was super awkward

  27. This is a great TED talk! I've always thought of pole dancers as twisting and writhing around a phallic image and essentially being a servant to the male organ. But I like the depth and class she brings to the dance in talking about the power of feminine eroticism. The pole is only one type of dance that expresses this, there are many. All she is saying (for all you nay sayers in the comments below) is that when we embrace and allow the awesome power of female sexuality to be out in the open, we also allow the male to claim his awesome powerful masculine sexuality, and together they absolutely compliment each other and protect EACH OTHER. Women offer protection just as men do. Being a "feminist" does not mean that you hate men or don't need the help and protection they offer. THIS IS NOT A COMPETITION! We are designed to work together as a team. Where did we ever get the idea to compete with each other? It is stupid. There is so much to be gained by working together. Thank you for bringing this message out in your unique way.

  28. I don't see the point of Female Empowerment and Awakening when Women already pretty much completely control Sexuality. The number of things a Man can do Sexually is narrowly limited, deviate too much and you're judged, ostracized, undeserving of your Manhood. The number of things a Woman can do is limitless whether it be Submissive or Dominant, internal, external, and any kind of partner or toy, it's all available and accepted. During the sex itself the Woman has the power. She can easily Orgasm numerous times in one session, if for some reason we just can't get it up or keep it up for as long as she wants, our Manhood is harshly questioned, not to mention choose whether to be honest about her experience, or fake it and the Man would be none the wiser. The ONLY reason Women claim Men control Women through Sex is due to using our physical strength over them.

  29. Most women's "sexual alter ego" is on display constantly. Even young children, if female, are dressed in less clothing than male children the same age. The sexualization in women's clothing has reached children's clothing, and it's very common to see female children in skin-tight tops and pants, outlining their breasts, butt, and legs as if to encourage sexual encounters, while of course male children the same age are in loose and comfortable clothing that does not sexualize or promote ogling. You're not releasing anything- you're just trying to make it worse. Females are not born sexual objects- they're made into sexual objects. This crap about unleashing your inner sex tiger might as well be a recent perfume commercial. It's the same old message: If you're female, become a sexual object. Just do it. Don't join a STEM field, don't aspire to anything, just put on this makeup, hair dye, nail polish, sexualized clothing, shave all the hair you gained at puberty, call yourself "girl" well past age 18, etc etc. The 4th wave of feminism? Is this like sequels, where they get worse and worse?

  30. bullshit statistics. 50% of no group of men said they would rape women. these feminist and their lies. their bullshit statistics have been disproved and yet the continue to perpetuate the lies in these stories to scare young women.

  31. WTF did you just say? That men in the West are oppressing and abusing women? Are you high on drugs? You must be, for clearly you are not in touch with reality. Women are being worshipped here, you get the same pay for the same job, you are more likely to get hired for almost every job, you get better grates for same results at school, not to mention that you are far more likely to get a grant, or any kind of support, you have limitless access to sex, to sexual and non sexual favours every day, all day. You never face any violence, you re not expected to sacrifice yourself for no reason other than your gender. You are not expected to have high standards (and if you failed to accomplish them, nobody will ever call you a looser), nobody will ever expect you to provide for family, nobody will ever scrutinize you for not being a "real woman", yet almost all woman use it as a super weapon to manipulate men… If you were a real man, you wouldn't…. There is only small chance you will go to jail for committing crimes and if you happen to be there you will only get 40% of time as men would. You have almost a guarantee to get child from a divorce, you can even rape men a sue him for child support, hell you can even accuse man of rape just because you don't like him and turn his life upside down whilest not having to provide any evidence, nor face any punishment when it turns out you made everything up. List of advantages is almost endless, for women are being worshipped in our society like an abnormal beings, almost as Homo-Superior. Now guess what, you are not superior, you don't even realize how easy you have it, nor will you ever admit it, or try to change it, for sexes in our society ARE NOT EQUAL. And please give me some moar examples of some muslim dudes that still live in a stone age like they are treating woman like a cattle, whilist you always defend Islam as a religion of peace.

  32. Thank you, Sister, for RE-minding US (Euro-centric United States) folk what SO MANY have the least experience with- a balanced sacred anima/animus feminine=life/💗, so that the masculine extroverted self may truly know T00 their sacredness of self(animus/anima); for we are only as self-caring & strong as our wholeness allows a personal link to…when we open ourselves (m/f/q) to wholeness WHOLENESS ABIDES❣😘💋

  33. Mostly, I agree with her, except for the time, when she was talking about domesticated abuse, and showed a woman with bruises, while, it's well known, statistically, that women are the physical domestic abusers! Women, mostly beat up men at home and men cannot do anything about it!

  34. "Fertility dance" ? References? Joseph Campbell, great? Not in my opinion, many of his theories throw the helpless under the bus. He does not get how disabling mental illness can be.

  35. shelia i give up you got me take advantage of me… exert all you're inner womanly libido on me… go insane …make yuor your thigh quiver. ….i wont complain.

  36. I like that she’s speaking about this erotic creature in a very beautiful way. Being feminine doesn’t mean being vulgar or cheap.Her dance at the beginning was very suble,gentle,feminine. We should make the difference

  37. At the beginning I kept think, she wishes. Her dancing was awful. Too stiff and she doesn't seem to know her knees can be straight for better lines. She looks like Bruce Jenner in that pink mini skirt. This chick is confused.

  38. I have been waiting for someone to see the ideal I've always had but I couldn't put outward on my own. It had to be done by a woman. You are very brave and strong to do this on your own. I hope you never stop, don't let the religious or the illiterates, or the haters sway your mind set. You have hit the nail on the head with the correct way to think. I totally believe every woman is a separate beautiful creation of the universe that we live in. We , all people couldn't exist without each other. You are letting the truth out . This may shock some of the people that can't grasp your concept. They are the ones who will not understand,and become hostile. Keep going. The truth you are letting out is more stronger than they are.

  39. Nothing gives me pleasure like the love and appreciation of a "daughter of God! I feel true women and men are spiritual children of omnipotent Love (God) and we were ALL created to worship this God by EXPRESSING Love! Thank you for your spiritually delicious talk!

  40. Empowering women without the destruction of men….nay….it is empowering women while strengthening men….novel concept.

  41. My Dad taught me that if you make a woman feel beautiful they love it. I love to tell women how beautiful their eyes are. ☺💃

  42. It's not crazy-it's entire natural and reasonable. The way we suppress and deny these things is crazy.

  43. Male or female, the facts are the same. It is essential that we discover the fatal flaw in caring what people think about you.

  44. Lol rubbish thoughts.
    Everyone is erotic but a human excellence is to tame himself/herself and control his/her erotic urges. Not to flow with them like an animal who know nothing but to act on their animalistic nature. A human has another thing, a pious soul, so he/she cant just quench his/her basal desires and leaves the path of integrity, piety and control which is according to his/her spiritual self. Because man/woman is a spirit, not just a body.

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